Two years back I happened to greet the fortieth year of my life with a gracious hello.
Since then I am looking forward to the most exciting era of my life which I trust will nurture my heart and soul.

When I turn back I see myself blessed with the true essence of contentment thanks to the constellation of some unique relationships in my life.

Gazing through the kaleidoscope of my past I gather the reflections of many marvelously warm relationships though scattered here and there are a few unpleasant grey shades.

Incidentally just thought of sharing some of my cherry-picked insights on relationships.

Alliance:
We form “alliances” in various arenas of life , alliances in which we consider ourselves comfortable as in workplace , family , neighbourhood , schools , hostels etc .This happens often out of necessity because man is a social animal. Our survival becomes easier in a group.

We tend to “choose” such alliances mostly. Though rare it could form by default as well . This so-called comfort of being in an alliance may also be temporary depending on changes happening in others and yourself .

You might have a special affinity to one or more members in an alliance too. There could be other confounding factors wherein we may be forced to withdraw ourselves anytime from such unsigned treaties, absolutely no strings attached.

In a nutshell nothing is permanent In such alliances.

True friend :
For me my “true friend” is myself …anytime …anywhere. Everything else is momentary. Nobody will remain loyal to you forever like yourself irrespective of your graphs in life .

Comfort zone :
I have realized that if you are able to talk to someone without “thinking ” then you are comfortable with that person .I have always wondered if that person felt the same with me. They will be the wall to your secrets .Your fingers will unknowingly punch their names on your phone in case you need to vent out or when you desperately need a help.

Probably this comfort is rooted in the strong belief that they can hold you in all states of matter .Many of you might find your spouses, parents, children or siblings in this group. This “phenomenon” again could be ephemeral.

Wavelength matcher:
There are certain people whom we get connected not out of necessity but out of a genuine match in wavelength .This wavelength is generally confined to certain interests in life.

They need not have a parallel thinking in all aspects .These are the relationships in which we “miss” spending time with,we “long” for a meeting with them and we love and cherish the memories of moments spent with them. Such relationships usually stand the tests of time .

You need not meet them often even if they are a birdsong away from you .You might feel they are making excuses not to oblige to catch up at a time when you feel like ( the other person at that time need not feel that as the right time for meeting you ).

Whatever said and done a charismatic bonding will remain which is beyond a “definition”.

Conventional:
There are certain relationships that “work” based on commitments.

Classic example is the “conventional” legal spouse relationship where people try their best to “make it work”. Siblings and offsprings also might fall into this group .

You are entangled with social , moral , legal, financial , emotional and blah blah blah commitments.
This is unfortunately where most people end up dying without living .

No entry :
We also put up a very rigid fence to protect ourselves from some. Those are the people whom we cannot tolerate at any cost . Nothing much, it is just a strict “No entry”.

Soulmate :
If you are fortunate enough you will be blessed with a very rare relationship of having a “soulmate”.You will hit the jackpot if this person happens to be your spouse as well.

This person will be the one who will love and hurt you the most .You might fight fiercely and throw every possible tantrum at this person , literally your punching bag for a lifetime .

But you might love him or her probably as much as you love yourself. It need not necessarily be hunky-dory all the time. With this person you may flow tranquilly in serene clouds or may restlessly scorch in distressed deserts .

No matter what , the bliss of being in such a relationship is beyond what words can express!

I personally believe that the much often celebrated term ” unconditional relationship “ is largely superfluous and rather meaningless.Whatever be the relationship, it invariably creates a sore when there is an imbalance in the ” give and take ” policy.

Tallying the delivery of expectations is inevitable in human beings and it is an incorrigible trait .This being a sore with a sweet pain you may not want to spit it . So just chew it ,swallow it , digest it and eliminate it .Simply because the galaxy of our diverse relationships could decisively be the guardian angel of your soulful spirit!